How to Get Rid of Anxiety and Create Epic Dates in just 3 Weeks.

Date Night Magic

I get you. I really do. It is hard AF when a delicious man who you want more than anything else in this world is not calling you back. It’s horrible. You check his social like ten times a minute. Your friends go traitorous on you, like “Hey, can we not talk about guys for a minute? Do you have anything else going on in your life…?” And you feel humiliated and also pissed because they know you have a job, but this is THE thing going on, and why won’t they listen….?

Made all the worse by the fact that it seems like every girl is out of control anxious these days. Dating anxiety is obvs an epidemic fueled by Tinder and bigpharma to keep the American population distracted from bigger issues… like the environment… but it is hard to remember that when every single girl in the 5K facebook group you belong to is freaking out. Like freaking. Out.

Sweetie, I’ve got a solution for you. Yes, I solved this for my clients and now I’m giving it to you. It’s a technique that will take you from anxious to epic. (If you like that sort of thing).

Date Night Magic

Date Night Magic is how I manifested epic dates when I was Tinder-dating. Like the time I rolled into the Espy’s at 11pm on a last minute ticket because a hot dad – Art Director decided he had to have me by his side. He worked all day to get me that ticket and we had the best, best time.

Date Night Magic clears out intensity by helping you access different parts of your brain. It rewires your nervous system so that you can begin to feel like you are having delicious, juicy, magical experiences. When you feel this way, you respond differently out in the world and this is how you create new experiences. It’s like this — let’s say you feel like crap already about dating. So you get on Tinder and a guy says “heeeyyy sexy” and you reply “Really???” Ok, so now that interaction is dead in the water.

But if you do Date Night Magic you will be in a state of fun, juiciness and yumminess. When a Tinder guy says “heeyyyy sexy,” you might actually giggle and flush like a school girl, bounce up and down a little and say, “uhmmm heyyy yourself handsome.” To which the Tinder hottie would reply heart-eyes-emoji… and, do you see where I am going with this?

Date Night Magic does not work if you do it once. I repeat, this is not a one time thing. Your brain has a well-grooved path of synapses that you have thus far traveled down repeatedly, possibly for years. The longer that dating and relationship have felt like hell, the longer it will take to release the trauma, reset your nervous system and fire new neurons together. But it can be done. I suggest doing Date Night Magic every single day for 21 days, and then two to three times weekly thereafter.

How To Do Date Night Magic

Step One: Morning Pages.

Morning pages, originally created by Julia Cameron in the 70s to help artists unblock creatively,  are three pages of longhand, stream of consciousness writing, done first thing in the morning. Put your pen to paper and write whatever you want until you have filled 3 pages. There is no wrong way to do Morning Pages– they are not even “writing.” They are about anything and everything that crosses your mind– and they are for your eyes only. You could literally write “why won’t he call why won’t he call why won’t he call” for three pages straight if you wanted.

 If you don’t feel results from Morning Pages, I encourage you to make sure you write 3 full pages. Something magic usually happens for my clients and I around page two and a half. There is an unlocking that begins, and an ushering into a different portal. Colors get brighter. Intuition gets sharper. New flashes and insights begin to come…. It’s a beautiful experience. I don’t want you to miss it.  

 Step Two: Self-Pleasure.

The minute you have finished morning pages, grab some coconut oil and warm up your hands (avoid using your vibrator for this) and have a delicious self-pleasure session. The goal here is not orgasm. The goal is simply to bring your body into a state of delicious touching and really activate your body into a prolonged state of yummy and juiciness. The trick to staying in a state of yummy is to breath. Most women clench up during self-pleasure and try to rush to orgasm. This is because porn has taught several generations of women that our orgasm is supposed to erupt like a man’s. Not so, sweetie. Not so. I will go into that in a different post, but for now…. Breath, breath, breath and relax, relax, relax….

Step Three: Daydream.

As you self-pleasure, remember the best dates and times you have ever had with a hottie. Let your mind linger on his cute smile, how he makes your heart beat faster, how fun it is to go for a drive in his car with the top down. The little gifts he gets you. How amazing romance can be. If your mind crunches back into anxiety, simply say “Mind, thank you for doing your job and trying to protect me. You can take a break.” And then, imagine the anxious mind falling out of the back of your head and bring yourself back to yummy daydreams of all the great dates, love, sex and wonderful moments you have had with men or your man.

For the 2.0 version of Date Night Magic: as you daydream about the past, begin to mix in some desires for the future. Daydream about things you would like to have happen as if they are already occurring. Be in the past… and then visualize what you would like… go back to the past… and then your desires… this tricks your subconscious into believing that it has actually happened for you already and preps your body to receive magic. Stay here for a while, and really enjoy every moment of your fantasy.

And that’s it! Date Night Magic takes about 45 minutes in total. Leave about 25 minutes to write 3 pages, and 20 minutes to self-pleasure and daydream about romance. If 45 minutes a day for 21-days seems like a lot of time, just think about how many hours your friends have endured your bitching about how horrific dating is over the last decade, and get to work. Go Type-A and bootcamp that manifestation.

You’ve got this!  I love you, and I believe in you. Have fun!

Sara N. EdwardsComment